Know Which Men to Need

Espousing the belief that, as a woman, I do not need a man is a rather faulty position, when the fact remains that spiritually we were created as complements of one another. In all of Creation you will find the Divine self expressing itself in ways that are primarily either masculine or feminine. My own spiritual beliefs cause me to understand that neither is complete; neither fully defines or encapsulates what or who the Creator IS without being paired with its opposite. Thus, up cannot be fully understood unless we know down, and loud is nothing without silence. And woman is incomplete without man.

When I find myself expressing my Divine self, I have to acknowledge that I do so primarily as a woman. To some degree I can hold and express masculine qualities but I cannot deny the truth of my earthly limitations. I do exist within a womanly body. I have a womb which allows me to bear children and breasts which allow me to nurture them. I have a soft heart and an emotional disposition. I am not unnecessarily irrational but I allow love and compassion to play a large part in my relationships with others.

The hurtful, painful part comes about when we, as women, fail to hold standards upon which we evaluate the men in our lives. When we give our hearts, bodies, and minds away to members of the opposite sex solely on the virtue of their possession of a penis. The mistake is not in trusting men, but in trusting the wrong men.

I consider myself fortunately to be part of a spiritual system which instructs me on how to know whether or not I am dealing with people who are living their lives in accordance with the same standards, values, and morals as me. When I find myself interacting with someone who believes in truth and justice and who is daily working to maintain his righteous character, what would be my reason not to trust him? When I know that his life is devoted to God, and his respect for Divine law guides his every decision, action, thought, and word, then I can trust this man, because his life is in God, and I can surely trust the Creator.

When I choose to put my hopes, dreams, trust, and faith in a man who has not proven to be right or righteous, who has not proven to be a man of intellect, reason, and goodness, who does not believe in a higher power or who does not devote his life to God, then I am gambling with my own physical and emotional well-being. For if this man will play loosely with his own life, what will he do when I put mine in his hands?

At the end of the day, every heterosexual woman who has ever said she doesn't need a man... WANTS one. No woman wants to live alone, and no woman would choose a life without a family and a mate if the option were presented to her. So choose to hold the men in your life to a higher standard and expect him to be a strong, intelligent, righteous, devoted, and ethical man that you can trust to fulfill his responsibilities towards you as a man, and to respect and appreciate your womanhood. A man with whom you are glad to respect, honor, and love.

Snt Embahra